A book every couple should read
She Trained Me
Better Than This
Notes on the small, daily art of being in a long relationship.
Most relationship books hand you rules. This one hands you a way of paying attention.
She Trained Me Better Than This is a field guide to the ordinary, daily art of being with someone for a long time — the part nobody writes the manual for. It is written from the inside of a marriage, with more honesty than flattery, and it is funnier than a book about listening has any right to be.
Twenty-four short chapters move from the big idea, that there is almost always a “very right answer,” and it is rarely the obvious one, to the granular details: gifts, jealousy, the question about gaining weight, and the four small questions worth asking yourself before you open your mouth.
Inside the book
- About the Title
- The Zone (of Compromise)
- The Perfect Storm
- The Very Right Answer
- Investigative Phase
- 4Q System
- Do You See Me Gaining Weight?
- Review
- The Learning Phase
- Gifts
- Darn Valuable Questions
- Review
- Opinions
- Fashion & Makeup
- Your Wardrobe
- Crying Is Okay, Complaining Is Not
- Helping Her
- Her Passions
- Your Passions
- Sex
- Jealousy (Hers)
- Jealousy (Ours)
- Is That All?
What readers say
The 4Q chapter genuinely cracked something open for me. I caught myself thinking — what if she has her own secret system, and one of her questions is “did you let him win today?” Suddenly every small moment reframed itself. The most eye-opening relationship book I've read.
I forced my fiancé to read this book. He hated it. I love it.
Something very obvious to say about this book is that it is very far from the guru bullshit and "200 pages of vacuity". There are some little gems hidden in lots of the chapters.
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